i'll be offline awhile.......

[derrick1623]

ok, after a few days of arguments, my former fiance has decided that i'm not what she wants to deal with...so, shes packing her s*** right now...i'll missher so F@#$N much, but s***, i can't hold her back right?




my mind is f@#ked, i can't think clear. oh well, i won't even know the replies...

bye all.

 

[Antoine]

Hold together Derrick...Youre a good man...hate to see you down like this...be strong...hopefully everything will work out for the better...

Sometimes a door will close...but another will always open...

Hope you will be back soon...and everything works out..sometimes hard times like these will result in great times later on...just have to be strong...good luck.

 

[BigBlue]

Well even if you aren't around to read the replies...I'm sure you knew we'd all be here to support you...it's just like family around here.

When you do get back, feel free to PM me if you need to talk!

Hope things look better for you soon.

 

[HS8]

Only time can tell, and time to heal. Good luck derrick

 

[Kooldino]

Msg me next time you get on. But as stated above, sometimes a door closes while another one is opening. Hope things work out in your best interests.

 

[derrick1623]

tada!

after having her bring me one of the old computers at her moms house(that i gave her sister)...and pulling my hair out trying to connect last night...something actually turned good, and i am cable speed again. still blows that she dont want me,

 

[Sir Nuke]

yes it blows.....but.....if it weren't ment to be....then you are better off......if it was....she will be back.

If you love her...set her free....if she loves you, she will fly back to you.

glad to see you are back......and to know it was more of a TECHNICAL reason you were going to be gone...which you got fixed up......

like the other said Derrick.....we are your family....and are here for you.

(stash)

 

[derrick1623]

there's part of my whole problem nuke....i've set her free many times before, she's came back...however each time it screws my head up more and more, because it ends again...i can't take the stress.

 

[katsmp3]

when life gives you lemons....

trade them for limes and have a corona.

 

[Sir Nuke]

there's part of my whole problem nuke....i've set her free many times before, she's came back...however each time it screws my head up more and more, because it ends again...i can't take the stress.

then ensure she understands its a one way door.....and even if you tell her....and she says she understands....its up to YOU to look for that NEW door that is about to open....and close and LOCK the old one....and move on.....its very hard to do....been there done that.....too many times to even think about.

matters of the heart are the hardest and most stressful that there are....for they touch us at our very core....and have the potential to effect us for the rest of our lives. Keep your chin up.....

 

[blynzoo]

God, I love this board. I'm tearing up.
Derrick, I "dun been there." I was engaged at 20! Then she decided that she couldnt change me into what she needed to be, and left. Nuke is right (he always is), open your own doors, get out there and make friends. I think it might also help to remain friends with her (which is what I have done with my former after a brief time apart). Complete separation just leaves a void, and you're more likely to have her back, and she more likely to have you, which, while you may want it now, is obviously causing heartache with each separation and subsequent restart (I've been there as well). Instead of an unhealthy total break (I assume she's not kicking the s*** out of you, and you dont need to run from her ), try keeping in contact, calling to ask how she is, but making it clear that it's a friend thing. I'm not strong enough to give up something good in my life cold turkey, I need a step down. And the best part is, you can remain friends forever. Im still friends with her now for almost 3 years after the fact, and she is a source of advice and strength in my life, but without having to worry about who's kissing who and the dating game.
But of course you know yourself better.

But try it. Give it some time apart, make yourself unavailable, then give a friendly call and ask how things are, any new news, gradually cultivate a friendship. Before you know it, you're hanging out and talking about new bf's and gf's. That is unless she's a psycho.

--Brook

 

[derrick1623]

my shell has been cracked i suppose...?

how can i try to be so stable...only to fall to pieces...i'm sure as everyone says...things may be better although...right now, it aint lookin that way...its been a few days, and still mindfuck...anyhow...