I need some emotional support

[Cirielle]

[QUOTEHow can it be contradictory if I was telling him that he was a now thing? And just like that too! Dating to me means that you can go out on a date or you can be boyfriend and girlfriend. I told him my level of seriousness was different than his. He didn't want to accept that! I can't help that! He and everyone else knew where I stood on my feelings!

If I will only love someone because someone loves me, than my life will not be as hard as it was. [/B][/QUOTE]

Well love is a lot easier than a lasting relationship!!! So if you find love hard a long-time committment might even be harder.
You can love someone and still not make it work. No matter what you do, even if they don't love you in the same way. Or even if they do love you and you them and you have so many problems or people interfering in the relationship.
Love truly is not enough to make a relationship work; it takes a lot more than love. I wish I could tell you something more upbeat than that, but I just can't.
I can tell you that you will love again. There is no doubt in my mind of that. Even a total broken person can love again. And a totally broken person can also find a long-lasting committment as well as love. And a broken person can heal.
Also I know this sounds wickedly weird, but sometimes it is the heartbreaks that make us appreciate love all the more. It makes us discover what we really want and what we really can do for ourselves.
Pain can be a precursor to happiness.

 

[mopiko]

Pain can be a precursor to happiness.

Nothing can replace the pain of losing her, but... I believe in hope, and I'm letting go with hope, the hope that love will find me again.... I've just put all her pictures, mails in a small box and store it away, it's hard to do, but I did it...

...

 

[Cirielle]

Nothing can replace the pain of losing her, but... I believe in hope, and I'm letting go with hope, the hope that love will find me again.... I've just put all her pictures, mails in a small box and store it away, it's hard to do, but I did it...

...

It is good that you are moving on....
And just think in a year from now, you should look this thread up again and laugh at all this crazy s*** that is in here!!!
(rofl)

 

[subaruwrx]

Man, this thread has helped me alot. I have been getting stressed out and my wife has said some things to me that maks me further depressed. I already ordered that Buscaglia book.

Anyway, thanks everyone. Thanks to Mopiko for posting some of my same feelings.

Another thing, when I Was single, I had a hard time with girls, then I learned something and all of a sudden I could get laid anytime I wanted to. The only thing was that I would not often have my choice. I learned many things, but the most important one is confidence. Master that and you will never go sex-less.
--A

 

[Matthew]

my wife is killin me now. im stressed. someone should make equation of my wife pissing me off to the sarcasm in my posts.

 

[mopiko]

Man, this thread has helped me alot. I have been getting stressed out and my wife has said some things to me that maks me further depressed. I already ordered that Buscaglia book.

Anyway, thanks everyone. Thanks to Mopiko for posting some of my same feelings.

Another thing, when I Was single, I had a hard time with girls, then I learned something and all of a sudden I could get laid anytime I wanted to. The only thing was that I would not often have my choice. I learned many things, but the most important one is confidence. Master that and you will never go sex-less.
--A

Cool, you should pay me for posting your feelings.... hehehe...

 

[mopiko]

It is good that you are moving on....
And just think in a year from now, you should look this thread up again and laugh at all this crazy s*** that is in here!!!
(rofl)

I think they should open a new section and make this thread a sticky... Next time when we see other members going through similar problems we should refer them to this thread....

 

[tttP5]

Hi everyone, I am not happy right now at all, in fact I am feeling very depressed. Two weeks ago my girlfriend dumped me because she said I don't really pay attention to her. I love that girl and obviously I still can put that behind and move on. At first we promised to keep friends as I have known her for 7 years as friends... But now she doesn't talk to me anymore, no email replies. When I tried to call her 90% she won't pickup and the rest 9% will be "I am very busy what do you want?" and the 1% we had great phone conversation with jokes and stuff.

So this is very hard for me to take, although this is my 3rd time in the past 8 years being dumped by a girl. (Something is wrong with me.) Now I can't even put my 100% to my work, my boss even noticed it though she hasn't gave me a hard time, last Sunday was my birthday and several coworkers (my boss and her manager, and the owner) all chipped in and bought me flowers (ok I'm a guy why flowers) so I got good people at work at least. But that didn't help much and I just can't seem to put my ex behind and move on.

For those who is curious I am 25 years old now, not one of those puppy love I'm longing after, so this is devastating. I was thinking about attenting a meet JerseyEMT set up in the area but I didn't go because I was depressed to a point I would've drove my car to a tree...

I'd never figure this relationship would turn sour like this so quick, no warning, just one night she called and wanted to break up.... sigh....:'(

Any of you have some constructive suggestions? I am just venting... I'm not angry at her, but I'm very depress right now, I figure people here can give me some encouragement. Thanks for reading my story.

sorry to hear that mopiko
same thing happened to me 2 days ago...

for some reason everyone around me and me who have had long relations are breaking up all of the sudden....
you'll feel crap and then feel ok and thne crap again... don't worry about it... s*** happens....

but all of a sudden I have this urge to act out what I wanted to do, which is buy stuff for my car and not just bulls*** about it......

do something which makes you happy

 

[MarkSpark]

Mopiko,

Hang in there, buddy. Things will get better. Don't rush into another relationship though. Enjoy being single. That's my opinion.

 

[mopiko]

Re: Re: I need some emotional support

sorry to hear that mopiko
same thing happened to me 2 days ago...

for some reason everyone around me and me who have had long relations are breaking up all of the sudden....
you'll feel crap and then feel ok and thne crap again... don't worry about it... s*** happens....

but all of a sudden I have this urge to act out what I wanted to do, which is buy stuff for my car and not just bulls*** about it......

do something which makes you happy

Man, sorry to hear your experience too, I agree about the urge part too, yesterday I went for a drive with several others here in PA, really nice and relaxing, after that my dream of turbocharging my P5 came back to me, think that's what I'm going to do now....

you hang in there too, I'm getting better after this whole thread, maybe you can read the whole thread about how others can help. You'll find it very useful at times.

 

[mopiko]

Mopiko,

Hang in there, buddy. Things will get better. Don't rush into another relationship though. Enjoy being single. That's my opinion.

It has been tough, but this thread helped me a lot, so thanks to all of you and thanks to you too MarkSpark. I'm trying my best and it seems to be working, I came up with some stuff I would like to do like turbo my car.... ho ho ho....

 

[Leadfoot]

Mopiko....I know it sounds bad, but you truly will be better off in the end. I too have been down that road, and right now nothing is better than just getting together w/ your friends and doing the things you truly love. Remember that you have to love yourself first, and your first responsibility should be yourself....ALWAYS remember that.

My personal fix for the times when I was most frustrated: a nice long drive (not reckless....but easy & quiet) preferably through some good scenery. I find that nothing is more relaxing than cruisin' in my baby (MSP) through some sweepers on some uncrowded back roads...better than therapy!

If you need to do back road drive, & need a wing man, feel free to drop me a PM. God knows I've got some stress to alleviate too!

Take care of yourself man, and I look fwd to ridin' with you!

 

[mopiko]

Thanks Leadfoot, I will definitely keep that in mind. Philly Area, not that far from me.... Acutally past Sunday I went fora drive with several others here in Yardley PA, got released a lot, still have some dark times, still waking up from nightmares at 5am everyday, but at least I can now concentrate on work again. Definitely a good sign....

 

[mopiko]

I hate digging out old thread, it's like re-opening the wound that is just recently healed. But noo..... things have to do from bad to worst.

Christmas day was nice, as I thought. Only in dream..... One of my good friend who dated my ex 3 years ago told me he is going out with her again.

Now that's not really that bad, I thought I've moved on, so no big deal right?

NOT! He started to tell me how sorry and shameful it is to do this to his friend, and he really didn't expect it to happen right now.

Then he has the nerve to tell me my ex told him that she didn't really liked me the whole time. Then he got all weird about his wording about their first time dating....

Then I realized what he was talking about is basically he had sex with her....

Fine, I really don't need to know that....

Then he said he felt obligated to date her again, kinda like a responsibility thing.

So I felt my angry fuse blew.... I was numb..... because everything was a lie, a lie GOD DAMNIT! A LIE!

After 2 days of numbness... I am now VERY PISSED OFF!!!!

If there are ladies reading this.... please tell me, why? Why me? What's wrong with me? Please..... I feel like killing myself now....

 

[jersey_emt]

There's nothing wrong with you, unless your last statement was truly meant. NO girl is worth killing yourself over...and the one who would be worth it would NEVER cause you to think that way in the first place.

Look...the truth is, nothing anyone can say (especially on a place like an Internet message board) will make things better. You're still recovering from a deep loss, and you're going to have to be strong to get through it.

But if you feel you can't deal with things, there's absolutely no shame in talking to a professional about your feelings. No shame at all.

You have every right to be pissed off at the world right now. I'd react in the same way probably. But the minute you truly believe hurting yourself is the only way out, is the point where talking with friends and people on a message board probably isn't enough to get you over this hump.

 

[alexlitov]

so they start to date when you were still together??

what kind of a friend is he?

 

[mopiko]

we were good friends, we really were.

And the girl, we've been good friends for 7 years.

I'll probably chicken out on my suicide attempt, just really sucks to have 2003 end in such sour note.

I don't hate the world, I know you guys are really cool. I hate myself for being such a dumb f$#!

She dumped me 10 days before my birthday, then her guy tells me how a lie the whole thing was on christmas day????? That's $#%@! up....

Why is love such a fiction to me? ....

 

[alexlitov]

Maybe you need to search for new, possibly better friends?

 

[mopiko]

I want to get behind the wheel of a MSP, STi, or EVO8 in a racetrack, and run in the ractrack for a day, that could help..... any racetrack around here???

Or an RX8, 350Z, GTO, something like that.... want to learn how to drive in a racetrack.....

 

[jersey_emt]

Hang in there until the spring....you're not going to find any classes in the winter.