So what your telling me is going fast is out of the question
no, theres no need to delete everything if you want to run a standalone. You can run it in parallel like they said, and still have all the features of the standalone working. The factory ECU is just there to control the A/C, speedo, etc.
To pass emmissions, you would need to wire the standalone to a jumper harness, and unplug it before you go to get the car tested. Then plug back in after you're done. Really the only way, I have the same problem living in NC, and a piggyback only goes so far.
Do they make a jumper?
AEM makes one, its a bit expensive but really the only way to make removal of standalone quick and easy.