broke up with my girlfriend

[Lil Freek]

hahaha.. so now all i need to do is start up my own underwear company, eh........

*runs out for more money from the bank*

 

[cbcbd]

point is... being single again is just a new opportunity to relive life, for myself and for all the other singles in this thread... take advantage of it while you can.. no responsibilities for anybody else, or any consideration for someone else's feelings - i love it.. i'm a self-absorbed jerk now, and i know i can't live like that forever, so i live it while i can (boom06)

Lol, that's exactly kind of how I feel now. I just want time to do my own thing on my own. Sounds bad, but I just want to be selfish, take care of things that I want to take care of, not have to consider anyone else when I go somewhere with someone. Not like I want to just go crazy with women now, I kind of just want to live for me now while I can. And yeah, I'm sure I'll get tired of it after a while, but it's gotta be done sometime or else I'll never really feel "ready" to compromise some of my freedom in the future.

 

[Lil Freek]

^^ d00d.. I refuse to date anybody unless if it's a once-in-a-lifetime shot.
every penny i have goes to the car and to me... I'm not bitter at women, but i feel as though much of my life (roughly 30% of it @ age 22) has been spent with women that really just made my life more difficult.
I eat about $20 of pasta and veggies every week, and the rest of my money goes into my car I love my baby, and it's pretty much all I want to focus on right now - i'm not retarded, I know i'll eventually grow tired of the car, but for now, I embrace it as my primary form of entertainment and pleasure.

 

[tyusha]

Haha this thread is interesting now. To give you an update, things are a little better. We talk and we desided to take a brake instead of braking up for now. But we will try not to miss opportunities, at least her. I am kind of shy so it's hard for me.....
My problem is that i can't be selfish. It's somehow ingrained in me that i need to be unselfish. So it's hard to live for myself, although you can't take care of others unless you take care of yourself first. So i need to learn, and i will make efforts. She is a great person but she wants to be selfish for now. So be it....

 

[laracroft]

So what you're saying is... she wants to keep you around until she finds someone else? Now THAT IS selfish. I know you probably think that this is "ok", but its not. You need to learn to be more assertive, dont do everything in the world for her and dont kiss her ass. NO WOMAN likes a man that treats her perfect 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I can tell that you give your all, devotion, love and giving comes very easily to you. But you're going to have to take a break from not only her, but from your so-called relationship WITH her. Taking a "break" just means looking for opportunities elsewhere. So in the end, there really IS NO relationship.

Re-examine your life and your lifestyle and grow out of your shell a little. There are sure to be other girls out there for you, if you open up a bit. I know it's hard for you since it'll be out of character, but you need to do this for yourself. You will just end up getting hurt in the end, and you probably already know this. Dont be content in letting her run the relationship and have you just hanging around until she finds something more "interesting". She's hanging on to you so she doesnt hurt your feelings and so that she still has someone to "be with" when she's lonely or rejected.

Stand up for yourself and say, damnit, I'm a good man, I deserve better and I'm going to march out that door and never look back! Have fun toting yourself around, I'm outta here!

 

[Lil Freek]

you should be a motivational counselor or something

fo real.. i was on the other side of said situation.. i tried to keep the ex around for the convenience of sex 'n such... she's pulled the plug on that and just wants to be friends... **** that, i have tons of friends and don't need one that's a cock-tease. My ex just likes to feel wanted.. she's all look, no touch (a useless woman, imo)

stand your ground, be a selfish asshole and think of you as number one. You are and will always be number one in your life. You may have a 1.05, but you must be #1 in order to survive and remain sane.

 

[cbcbd]

Tyusha, man... get out of this. Right now you're only around for her comfort, like Lara said. It's very easy to keep someone in a relationship when you yourself are looking for a replacement to bail you out. In the end you will be the one getting hurt because you have "no hand" (as George Costanza put it) in the relationship right now.

**** that, i have tons of friends and don't need one that's a cock-tease. My ex just likes to feel wanted.. she's all look, no touch (a useless woman, imo)

Dude, I have a friend who is just like that. We get along so well and I'd actually like to see if something else could develop. We both really like each other, but she's "confused" and basically wants to carry on having a "friendship" where we can act like a couple in public, sleep together (no sex), but whenever we start to get too touchy she just pulls away saying that she has to control herself. WTFOMFGBBQBB!!!!!!!

I don't have time for that crap

 

[Lil Freek]

buahaha.. you know what? every city has like 200-300 of those women... they're what i like to call "strippers"... except strippers are REALLY upfront about being cock-teases... and most are drop-dead gorgeous and are worth the case of blueballs.
even better.. you 'n a bunch of your friends can oggle these cockteases and none of you will feel jealous of the others, cuz none of you have to buy her dinner, cuddle with her or spend unwated time with her

 

[bazooka joe]

what lara said!!

 

[laracroft]

I'll be the first one to tell you ANYTHING you want to know about women. I will tell you like it is without the B.S. and the little "games" most of them play. I usually don't get along with most girls personally. I find alot of them to be selfish, arrogant, moody, narsasistic (spelling?), demanding and so forth. Then again, there are also the fellas out there that just want to look out for #1 and continue to play "the game" with girls as well. I've been on both sides of the fence.. the winning side and the losing side. Only after being in my mid to late 20's did I look back to all of this and say, wow... the games people play with each other. I AM DONE.

I've said elsewhere what the winning combination to dating and holding on to the "right" kind of girl is. I forget where I put that post. Oops. But if anyone has "issues" that they want to ask about the general female "species"... ask me. It will be unbiased and non-judgemental. If you want to ask without everyone knowing your business in a thread, pm me.


And yes,.... we DO need chocolate every now and then to help us to survive our day without biting someone's head off. lol

 

[Lord_Zath]

werd. Never treat a girl like she's a princess. She'll walk all over you. That's what happened to my best friend. Now he's 50k in the hole and working off payments for a new Cavalier. (owned)

 

[Maz2001MP]

I'll be the first one to tell you ANYTHING you want to know about women. I will tell you like it is without the B.S. and the little "games" most of them play. I usually don't get along with most girls personally. I find alot of them to be selfish, arrogant, moody, narsasistic (spelling?), demanding and so forth. Then again, there are also the fellas out there that just want to look out for #1 and continue to play "the game" with girls as well. I've been on both sides of the fence.. the winning side and the losing side. Only after being in my mid to late 20's did I look back to all of this and say, wow... the games people play with each other. I AM DONE.

I've said elsewhere what the winning combination to dating and holding on to the "right" kind of girl is. I forget where I put that post. Oops. But if anyone has "issues" that they want to ask about the general female "species"... ask me. It will be unbiased and non-judgemental. If you want to ask without everyone knowing your business in a thread, pm me.


And yes,.... we DO need chocolate every now and then to help us to survive our day without biting someone's head off. lol

lara knows her s***, she'll hit every nail on the head.. to be honest I dealt with alot of bs from girls in the past (cheaters, liars, mind games), and all of what i dealt with made me alot stronger and made it easier to point out bulls*** when it comes around.. i was with this one chick and she was nothing but trouble (thread floating somewhere).. and i couldnt see the truth because I cared about that person so much that i guess i was blinded.. well that was almost a year ago and i currently have been with someone for about 4 months who is the sweetest and most caring person i have ever met.... even though we havent been together for long, i couldnt ask for anything better...

I know it's hard but you have to try and live your own life and do what is best for you. if she is leading you on and making you think that your relationship might be able to continue then you have to realize that and give her the boot. that is just wrong.. you dont deserve to have your feelings ****** with bro. especially if you care about the girl.. i suggest you get your boys who you are close with and keep talking about it.. if you can get as much off your chest as possible then you will be better off and have a clearer mind to make decisions..

 

[tyusha]

Honestly this was mostly my desicion. She is going away as a camp counselor for the summer, so that's when we will take a brake.
I also insisted on HAVING to take a brake no matter how hard it might be. I am trying my best to come out of my shell little by little. But it's taking time.....

 

[Lord_Zath]

Take your time. The worst relationships are those you rush into. Elvis said it right.

 

[protege84]

Yes i broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years. It happened last night and i've been supprisingly well then. But i knew it would hit me today. And it did. It hit me hard. I spent all day in bed sleeping and having nightmares. It sucks. Thank god that i am in college (senior week aka no classes just spending time with friends), and not around my parents. It's hard to feel anything right now, and being clinically depressed doesn't help matters.
Sorry for a sappy post , i just wanted to share.

Congratulations (yes)

You got rid of her before she suckered you into marrying her and before you had any children with her, you got out just in time, because we all know that those monthly child-support payments don't fully go to the child.

You're a young guy, still in college, you should be concentrating on yourself. You need to learn to genially not give a **** about pussy. It's a hard thing to do because most young guys have been conditioned and pussified to do exactly the opposite. All the "get laid fast" tricks will be useless until you learn how not to give a ****. And once you do, you will not really need any tricks.

It is never worth it to jump through hoops and to put a lot of effort into getting or keeping pussy if all you want is sex. Pussy is NEVER worth a lot of effort. Just do what you want to do with your time. If pussy wants to come along, great. If not, just tell her to get lost. If you can get pussy with very little effort, then great. But if not, pass on her and wait for another woman to come along. Sex is just a commodity. Spend your time and energy on finishing college, making money, starting a business, or travel.

I don't know why you are depressed, you probably only lost a few $ thousand dollars over the 3 years, it could have ended up much worse, count yourself as being fortunate. If history is any indication of the future, overwhelming odds are that you are better than her, since in most relationships it is the man who is a better person, a more educated person and makes a higher $ income.

Women want access to the three options available only to women who marry up to more successful men (which the majority do):

1) To stay home to parent

2) To mix work and parenting to their liking

3) To work full-time, but with the option to switch to either of the first two options at any time.

This is only possible if the woman is married to a man who financially subsides these choices. Then there's the after marriage option:

4) If she gets bored of him, divorce and ass-**** him in court.


So, right now, just worry about graduating from college, and when you graduate from college, move back in with your parents, save money and help your parents and spend time with yourself doing what you want to do. Sure, girls will call you a loser when they see you living with your parents, but remember - when a girl calls you a loser, that is a badge of honor.

Let's translate "loser" from women-speak into English.

"Loser" in woman-speak simply means a man who is smart enough to do things that are in HIS best interest.

* You don't spend your hard-earned money on women - you are a loser
* You expect regular sex - you are a loser
* You are not interested in marriage - you are a loser
* You don't want to be stuck with kids - you are a loser
* You don't want to slave away 60 hours a week so a woman can buy a new SUV every year - you are a loser
* You live at home with your parents and help them - you are a loser

So, once again, I have great respect for you that you ditched her before marrying her, I hope more guys on these boards follow your lead and tell their girlfriends to get lost.

 

[jester1x]

protege84, you speak the truth! The key is to find a woman who doesn't fit the criteria you listed which seems near impossible these days. I've been used, abused and conned, but I place a great portion of the blame on myself. I made the choice to put up with it. I've been burned, am somewhat bitter, but would still love to find a no-nonsense woman. I will no longer commit to a "three-ring circus" to land a woman. If she doesn't like what she sees before her, then it wouldn't work out anyways.

I know you are much better off being alone than in some relationship with a person who has no consideration for you and never will.

You all have probably heard this one before, but "Women are like buses. Miss the first one, then catch the next."