Bad day so far.... ticket involved. How is you day so far?

[winty87]

aahh the girl I have known since my sophmore year highschool (her freshman) year just broke up with her b/f of 2.5 years because she wasnt happy and she cheated on him with me (just a little kissin, nothing serious, and some other guy) and then tonight when I saw her, she told me she made out with this kid that I'm kind of friends with on monday. I'm just so depressed and disappointed in her and I havent wanted to beat the s*** out of a guy so bad in my life. He knows how much I like her and he still did it. She knows how much I like her and she still did it, Now I'm drunk and I dont know what to do. Every girl I meet I compare to Lauren (girl I like). I can see myself marrying her and being with her the rest of my life. I've dated her before and I know I'm in love. She is my best friend and it doesnt bother me that I havent dated many other girls or only had sex once. Marrying Lauren and knowing shes only the second girl I will have intimate relations with the rest of my life is fine with me. I just dont know what to do. I dont want to not talk to her for a long time becuase of what she did to ruin being with her but all in the same she did do something stupid and she knows she did something stupid.


I type good when I'm drunk....

C'mon guys. I'm at an all time low right now. Enlighten me.

 

[Shadow102]

aahh the girl I have known since my sophmore year highschool (her freshman) year just broke up with her b/f of 2.5 years because she wasnt happy and she cheated on him with me (just a little kissin, nothing serious, and some other guy) and then tonight when I saw her, she told me she made out with this kid that I'm kind of friends with on monday. I'm just so depressed and disappointed in her and I havent wanted to beat the s*** out of a guy so bad in my life. He knows how much I like her and he still did it. She knows how much I like her and she still did it, Now I'm drunk and I dont know what to do. Every girl I meet I compare to Lauren (girl I like). I can see myself marrying her and being with her the rest of my life. I've dated her before and I know I'm in love. She is my best friend and it doesnt bother me that I havent dated many other girls or only had sex once. Marrying Lauren and knowing shes only the second girl I will have intimate relations with the rest of my life is fine with me. I just dont know what to do. I dont want to not talk to her for a long time becuase of what she did to ruin being with her but all in the same she did do something stupid and she knows she did something stupid.


I type good when I'm drunk....

C'mon guys. I'm at an all time low right now. Enlighten me.

ya know no matter how much you think you "love" her or can see yourself marrying her it sounds like she has alot growing up to do. All in all it may be better you are not with her considering she has already shown that she can cheat without giving much thought to it and even crushing the feelings of someone that considers her a best friend. As for doing something with another guy can you really blame him? I mean whats so different about you making out with her while she had a b/f and on top of that there is no "dibs" on a single girl. Just trust me in the long run and walk away from this girl just stay friends with her and see where it goes cause like i said she seems like she has ALOT of growing up to do. Personally i have been in a similiar situation i whatched as one of my best friends has dated a slew of bad guys but like i said i just remained friends with her now things are starting to come full circle and she has become very mature about it all and there may be a chance for me yet. And not to get personal but it sounds like you are young (early 20's or so?) which means i will tell you the same thing my dad told me "you have your entire life ahead of you and your 20's is the best time of it. Live it up get drunk, have sex (albiet be it safe), party, and have as much fun as possible because once you get married or even worse have children all that wild fun usuall slows down or stops"

 

[woodstockstr]

aahh the girl I have known since my sophmore year highschool (her freshman) year just broke up with her b/f of 2.5 years because she wasnt happy and she cheated on him with me (just a little kissin, nothing serious, and some other guy) and then tonight when I saw her, she told me she made out with this kid that I'm kind of friends with on monday. I'm just so depressed and disappointed in her and I havent wanted to beat the s*** out of a guy so bad in my life. He knows how much I like her and he still did it. She knows how much I like her and she still did it, Now I'm drunk and I dont know what to do. Every girl I meet I compare to Lauren (girl I like). I can see myself marrying her and being with her the rest of my life. I've dated her before and I know I'm in love. She is my best friend and it doesnt bother me that I havent dated many other girls or only had sex once. Marrying Lauren and knowing shes only the second girl I will have intimate relations with the rest of my life is fine with me. I just dont know what to do. I dont want to not talk to her for a long time becuase of what she did to ruin being with her but all in the same she did do something stupid and she knows she did something stupid.


I type good when I'm drunk....

C'mon guys. I'm at an all time low right now. Enlighten me.

man i realy do feel bad for you. i have been in this same spot many many times. i think im going though it right now too. i can get a crush on a girl realy easy. i know this one girl that is prob. the best looking girl i have ever seen and we have been friends since we were like 7. it bugs the s*** out of me to see her with other guys, but the one thing is that the world is so big and you will deff. know when the right one comes around. i know she isnt the right one cause it doesnt sound like she feels the same way about you as you do her. hang in there big buddy and everything is gonna turn out for the better

 

[RacerXGirl]

These guys are offering good advice Winty...be patient and you'll find the right woman for you. One who will have *your* best interests at heart and will love you as much as you love her. She's out there, don't worry.

 

[winty87]

I know you all would pull through and give me some advice, yeah I'm 19 years old so I do have my whole life in front of me. I still have a lot of thinking to do and I I have to sit her down and tell her how I feel, because the last time I sat her down after I was pissed off at her cuz she kept on trying to make out with me I told her "I love being your best friend but you can't keep treating me like this, it's either me or him, you can't have both of us." And then 2 weeks later she broke up with him, so sitting down and talking to her works well. Because if she keeps building me up like she likes me and wants to be with me and still does stupid s*** she's only going to push me away again, and for an even longer time. She already lost her one best friend who I'm cool with cuz he couldnt take it anymore how she built him up like she liked him but just screwed him over (this was 5 months ago, and they just recently stopped talking last month) But yeah I need to tell her if she does this stupid s*** enough times I'll be gone. Which sucks, shes all i think about. I guess the best thing for me to do right now is do what she's doing and find some strange ass and think nothing of it.


I guess its true what they say. You never forget your first love.

 

[noleson]

I know you all would pull through and give me some advice, yeah I'm 19 years old so I do have my whole life in front of me. I still have a lot of thinking to do and I I have to sit her down and tell her how I feel, because the last time I sat her down after I was pissed off at her cuz she kept on trying to make out with me I told her "I love being your best friend but you can't keep treating me like this, it's either me or him, you can't have both of us." And then 2 weeks later she broke up with him, so sitting down and talking to her works well. Because if she keeps building me up like she likes me and wants to be with me and still does stupid s*** she's only going to push me away again, and for an even longer time. She already lost her one best friend who I'm cool with cuz he couldnt take it anymore how she built him up like she liked him but just screwed him over (this was 5 months ago, and they just recently stopped talking last month) But yeah I need to tell her if she does this stupid s*** enough times I'll be gone. Which sucks, shes all i think about. I guess the best thing for me to do right now is do what she's doing and find some strange ass and think nothing of it.


I guess its true what they say. You never forget your first love.

i know that i't gonna hurt for a while, cause something similar happend to me too. I will tell you that the best way out is to let her go. Things will be difficult in the beginning, but it will all work itself out in the end. What i can tell you is that you'll probably have trouble sleeping, eating and concentrating on stuff for a while. Girls have that effect on us. I know what it feels like to be led on, it happened to me for about a month until i finally woke up and said to myself: "to hell with this girl. no one is worth this much and if they were, they wouldn't do this to me." you'll see the same thing, and just like Shadow and woodstockstr said, there are plenty of other girls out there. Just DON"T do anything that you might regret in the future. trust me on that one. take it easy and don't be so hard on yourself. good luck man.

 

[Foolish]

You could have her killed. I know guy who knows a guy....

Ok, that's not true. I have no friends.

Now for some (hopefully) helpful words: Don't "sit her down and talk to her", just take a big step back. I'm not saying walk away, just step back, stop chasing this one. If it's right, she'll come back to you. If not, you'll find someone else once you're not busy fretting over this one.

Seriously, if the word "marriage" passes through your 19 year old brain, it should be immediatly followed by the works "**** that!"
Say it with me now:
"marriage?...... **** that!" There, now isn't that refreshing?

Trust me on this one. You won't even be the same person in 3 years, you don't need to be getting hung up on any one person right now, 'cause odds are, even if she(now) is perfect for you(now), you'll both be different people soon, and very likely incompatible. I know this from friends who got married young, and divorced young, too.

 

[winty87]

Awesome advice guys. I have thought about taking a step back and seeing if she'll come to me but I guess I'm too much of a pussy to cuz I dont want to lose her again. My main problem is that because we are such good friends and are like eachothers halves I want to be with her because I feel we could be sooo much more than what we are and not even on a sexual level. And the thing is if I do end up with her and down the line she cheats on me. She knows what I'll do, I'll ****** leave her for 4-6 months and I dont think she can handle that because I've done it to her before and it tore her up and she was calling my friends begging them to talk to me and go see her. So I guess I have 2 choices at hand, start dating her when she feels comfortable to be with somebody again or sit back and watch this girl hook up and me tear myself apart.


"Marriage.....**** THAT!" Yes that is refreshing

 

[B1GHAM]

You could have her killed. I know guy who knows a guy....

Ok, that's not true. I have no friends.

Now for some (hopefully) helpful words: Don't "sit her down and talk to her", just take a big step back. I'm not saying walk away, just step back, stop chasing this one. If it's right, she'll come back to you. If not, you'll find someone else once you're not busy fretting over this one.

Seriously, if the word "marriage" passes through your 19 year old brain, it should be immediatly followed by the works "**** that!"
Say it with me now:
"marriage?...... **** that!" There, now isn't that refreshing?

Trust me on this one. You won't even be the same person in 3 years, you don't need to be getting hung up on any one person right now, 'cause odds are, even if she(now) is perfect for you(now), you'll both be different people soon, and very likely incompatible. I know this from friends who got married young, and divorced young, too.

Trust me hes right on this... I think every guy has been in this position... as have I.

dont talk to her, but seriously just separate yourself for a while. Dont be mean or anything and you can still talk to her, but just step back. Dont allow yourself to be all over her any chance you get. Its going to suck @ first but its the best thing for you. You cant allow yourself to get tunnel vision this bad on someone who obviously isnt showing you she feels the same way. Even worse, if you WERE to go out, it doesnt sound like she would have the same feelings and have your best interest first (like you would for her).

You know, they say girls mature faster than guys... but after my past experiences, I cant say that I agree in ANY sense of the words (and there are always exceptions).

I think the more you separate yourself from the situation and truely think about it, 1 of 2 things will happen. She will show you in some way that she is meant to pursue, OR you will see the signs that have always been there that its better for both of you if you DIDNT have a serious relationship (or maybe that she is incapable, for whatever reason, of a serious relationship).

 

[winty87]

I hope it doesnt get down to any of that but if it has to it has to. Part of wants to ask her the next time I see her (which will most likely be tomorrow) What I am/mean to her. Its worth a shot right? If she tells me she'd like to see how things work out between us then I can bring the part that if she cheats on me, I'm gone. And if she says I'm just a friend to her I'll admit I'll be pissed and hurt and then I can tell her if I'm just her friend then she needs to stop leading me on every chance she can and stop trying to make out with me, Or else...I'm gone.

 

[Shadow102]

I hope it doesnt get down to any of that but if it has to it has to. Part of wants to ask her the next time I see her (which will most likely be tomorrow) What I am/mean to her. Its worth a shot right? If she tells me she'd like to see how things work out between us then I can bring the part that if she cheats on me, I'm gone. And if she says I'm just a friend to her I'll admit I'll be pissed and hurt and then I can tell her if I'm just her friend then she needs to stop leading me on every chance she can and stop trying to make out with me, Or else...I'm gone.

bad idea cause you are bascially leading her into a trap on that one and there was nothing more that i hated was when my g/f would do that to me. its kinda like the "Do you think that girl looks pretty" i mean there is no correct answer that you arent going to get in trouble from. Seriously just be totally honest its the best thing to do just tell her that you are not happy about the situation and that yes you do like her but on the same level you are not going to deal with cheating or the inmaturity. I do agree with walking away even though it is hard. My g/f of 3 1/2 years broke up with me back in june and basically lied to me about everything and slept with a guy 2 weeks after we broke up and to walk away was the best advice i was able to get from everybody. I see her for who she really is now and am better off without her. I do have to say though go out have fun suround yourself with your closest and best friends (not her) and definatly come here whenever and talk to people. I have to say that was the best thing that got me through my hard time was the great friends i had here to help me out

 

[woodstockstr]

realy though, i say just relax and let it all happen. dont go out of your way to try and make it work. see what she does. life is just one big game brother and your not the only one playing. sometimes your just have to accept loosing and step back up to the plate.

 

[wmbeaver]

living is easy but life is hard

 

[winty87]

Today driving to work I felt amazing. All of sudden without even thinking about it, I said "**** IT." I realized I shouldn't let her making out with Will (my ex friend or whatever) get to me. That is really what I'm so bent about. I said, I cant be completely mad at her because yes she is single now and if you want to get over a b/f or g/f and you have the chance to make out...Your gonna make out, it sucks but most people do that. Not me but other people do. I'm still pissed at him because i was good friends with him and its a rule amongst men to not do that kind of s***. So yeah, as of now, I'm just going to sit back and let her take her time, maybe **** up and then maybe she'll realize what she could have had and can have if she plays her cards right. If I don't see her tomorrow I'm guaranteed to hang out with her all day on tuesday after our classes, and thats our "talking and getting things out day" so that'll be the day I lay it down.

 

[aMaff]

Once a cheater.............

 

[woodstockstr]

Now this is a bad day. my friend kali hit a elephant, or truck or something of that nature. it sucks to see such a nice car all torn to hell. She couldnt see over the hood scoop

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[Shadow102]

^^^i call dibs on the seats j/k

that sucks i hope she is ok. was it her fault?

 

[woodstockstr]

i think it was. the v-tec and the all wheel drive are what saved her life!!! lol. she is ok though. ohh yea and i allready got dibs on the wheels and seats and spoiler. who wants one good sti head light?

 

[Velocifero]

damn that really sucks, car looked really good too. Sucks but like Korey always says, and most can agree, it is just a car, at least she walked away. Shotgun on the sideskirts, i believe they can be made to fit our cars. Seriously though glad she is ok, and I have the sideskirts called.

 

[woodstockstr]

damn that really sucks, car looked really good too. Sucks but like Korey always says, and most can agree, it is just a car, at least she walked away. Shotgun on the sideskirts, i believe they can be made to fit our cars. Seriously though glad she is ok, and I have the sideskirts called.

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