help me with my dating troubles

[Stealth5]

i got a new girlfriend and i dont know what we should do together...i have NO ideas, me and my friends always do stupid immature s*** (fire, napalm, etc.) and all her friends do too many drugs...luckily i helped her quit drinking and smoking but i dont know wtf we should do together and it seems like we have nothing to talk about but shes crazy about me, its almost scary.

she was in teh car with some people and i called her and they were really loud and i couldnt hear her and she goes hold on and told them to be quiet and i hung up in the meantime, and she called back and apologized for hanging up on ME....reverse whipped, HOO HA

 

[Natey]

(upbum) (bj) (spank) (hump)
(thumb)

 

[Stealth5]

thats the ultimate goal

 

[Ryan]

what ya do man, is find out her interests

what ya do is find out her interest other than drinking and smoking LOL then you find something she likes to do that you like to do then go from there.

 

[uclap5]

bring her into your interests, let her bring you in to hers... minus the self destructive ones.

I know people who after they have told each other everything they think is interesting in their pasts then they break up because they can't think of anything to talk about anymore.

It doesn't help if you spend every day all day with each other, then you just run out of s*** to talk about. Remember you each gotta have your own lives, your own interests and things you do separate. Then you can talk about things you've been up to.

I'm almost at 4 years with my GF, so just relating how things go. We went through the phase of "hmmm, what else should we talk about" for a while, but we learned we don't have to tell stories that are impressive or showing off or funny, just talk, about everything, even things you dont find interesting in your life, your partner still will want to hear it.

If you really are into each other, just stick it through and maybe you will find there is plenty to say without retelling stories from your past. then its all gravy.

Good luck.

If all else fails, talk about the news, politics, and pertinent issues. LOL.

 

[Mazdaspeedgirl]

Alan's right.

Also think about this: she probably really digs you because you are her sanctuary away from the things she possible wants to get away from. Seems that if she did quit smoking and drinking that she may be growing out of that phase of her life. Do find some common interests, even if one at first. Take it easy, don't fret over little things and with time you will learn how to cultivate the relationship. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS remember that communication is key. I know--it's so cliche, but how do you think a cliche becomes a cliche?

oh, and the pimpin car prolly helps too...

 

[DooMer_MP3]

Well, somebody had to be the pessimist... Nothing to talk about? No common interests? Hmm... (scratch).

Chris

 

[changedman]

drive around really really fast

xcept that'll prolly scare her

 

[Witchdoktor]

It's the car Stealth5

break it in! (upbum)

 

[fastdrvr23]

I agree with Diane and UCLAP5 in the fact that just getting to know one another through talking will be a great start. Just learn to be comfortable around each other, and figure out along the way what your interests are. My g/f have been dating for a ~5 years give or a take a few breaks, and we talk about everything.

In my experience, when I first start dating someone new, there's always all sort of krap to talk about.. then it sort of levels off, which is good in my case since I don't talk that much anyways.

Just for the hell of it, I am going to try and list a few activites that might be good dates or a way to spend time together... I tried all this junk during high school when I wasn't dating one person steadily in particular, and we usually had fun.

In no particular order:
Movies
Dinner
Batting cages
Driving range
Go cart racing
Laser Tag
Ice Skating
Put-Put Golf
Riding Motorcycle
Hiking
Boating
Exercise (walking, tennis, swimming, etc.)
Paintball
Dragstrip (My Ex-fiance thought these were the greatest dates ever, well, when I would let her drive my truck at test and tune. I don't think anyone else I went out with would have liked it. )
Bowling
Pool (Billiards)
Gun range (Yeah, my g/f now really likes going there... A few in the past did too, especially the ones that had never been shooting before... They usually asked me to go when they found out I went alot... Always struck me as kind of strange)

That's about all I can remember at the moment.
I'll not mention anything about sex yet, since alot of folks have already mentioned that. That makes all that other stuff above seem a bit dull...

I forgot to ask, how old are you Stealth5?

 

[Stealth5]

big 1-7 ill be 18 in november.

 

[mypfizzle]

gun range -=) great date.. it just sucks when they get lucky an shoot better than you.. -=( if shes pretty open you could always just ask her what she wants to do.. some girls will just tell u.. and other ones will play the i dont care card.. when the i dont care card comes out.. thats when u gottah get creative. -=(
Take her on a roadtrip somewhere for the day.. sometimes getting out of the same old thing lets people open up. i know when i head down to the bay with my girl shes alot more open an happy then when we are stuck in sac all the time. -=)
John

 

[melicha8]

I would take her out and do some outdoor stuff. It works really well. Take her rock climbing and rafting...stuff like that. You can get her alone, pump up her endorphins, and she'll open up to you. It also makes you and her look better. You could also work out together.