So how many of you here have had a 3some? seriously..

[Chicken SOup]

Well me and my girl have been together for a long time and we are very comfortable sexually, and we are considering having a 3some..but we have yet to accomplish this feat. Well my question is to all that have had one, has it affected ur relationship, and honestly do u see it as worthwhile afterword.
Thanks and pls post mature responses...

 

[Low J.]

if you can stomach the thought of someone else touching your woman sexually then you're a better man than I. I'd say if either of you are having urges to be with a 3rd party then the relationship is probably doomed......but then judging by your post you already know that.

 

[AGR]

Well...My dog is always trying to jump up on the bed, but he cannot quite make it. I think it's just as well. (lol)

 

[mypfizzle]

yeah.. with my ex and this other chick.. it was cool.. about a month after that the relationship fell apart. -=\
oh well.. she gone.. and im happier now. -=P.. good luck..

 

[clownphish]

Well me and my girl have been together for a long time and we are very comfortable sexually, and we are considering having a 3some..but we have yet to accomplish this feat. Well my question is to all that have had one, has it affected ur relationship, and honestly do u see it as worthwhile afterword.
Thanks and pls post mature responses...

The first bit of insight I'd say is make sure you two are SECURE with it before it happens. Have you found someone to do it with yet? If so, for all of your sakes and I know this goes without saying but it's still obligatory: make sure you're all clean and protection is involved - you don't need STD's or babies from one night of bliss. Relationship wise, it can freak you out even after you've both agreed it's cool. Also, it may not turn out to be all you're anticipating so don't put too many expectations on it. It will definitely affect your relationship IMO but I'm hoping it will make your relationship better and open new doors for you two. Good luck!

 

[nate0123]

I don't think I could deal with sharing someone I loved sexually

And it would beg the question that if we were thinking about it, that we are not "enough" for each other, and that would be unsettling for me

I think the only way I'd dig the whole 3-way thing is if I didn't particularly care about the other 2 people involved (dunno)... it might be a whole lot of fun

 

[LinuxRacr]

I have! With Me, Myself, and I.

 

[2K3 MSP]

You guys remember that show on MTV called Loveline? That doctor on there always said if you are ready for a threesome, that it means the relationship is screwed.
You may stick with her, and go on to have many more threesomes, but the relationship will never be the same. Either you'll enjoy the 3somes and she'll want them to stop, or she'll enjoy them and you'll want it to stop. I wouldn't ask my girl to do that ever. First, she'd break up with me for obvious reasons, and second, that would mean she didn't satisfy me.

 

[Mxyzptlk]

Choo-choo!!!

 

[clownphish]

I don't agree with that. That may be true for some couples but a blanket statement like that doesn't apply to all. My relationship is just as strong, if not stronger, than it was pre-3. If you are secure and want the chance to do something you haven't done before then I see nothing wrong with it. I see our #3 ever week, does that mean we've done it again? No. Will we? I can say on a scale of 1-10 the chances are 1. Sex means different things to different people, how or where you go with it shouldn't matter as long as EVERYONE INVOLVED knows what they're doing... and that it's legal!

 

[Hypnotized]

If you want to do it then do it. If both you and you girl feel that this wont interfere with your relationship than I find no reason not to go along with it. You never said if it was with 2 girls though. 2 girls=yes you and another guy=no.. Just my opinion.

 

[Chicken SOup]

Well to give more clarification to my situation ... me and my girl have been together for 7yrs... and again like someone has stated b4 sex means different things to diff people, and we are both very sexual. Not saying that we are sick with eachother, actually we are very happy, we just wanted to try sumthin diff......something exciting...do i love her? More than anything. But we are very secure (after 7yrs i surely hope so,.. lol) and we wanted to experiment. I have to disagree with the statement that if a couple attempts to try a 3some then there relationship is doomed. B/c everybodys tolerance level is diff...
well keep the opinions coming!

 

[pingdum]

Actually there are 4 kinds of 3somes.
1.You and your girl+another guy
2.You and your girl+another girl
3.You and a hetro couple
4.You and a lesbian(gay if you're a girl) couple.

I've done 1,2 and 3 and I have to admit some of the emotional backlash was hard to deal with from all parties. My advice if you and your girl decide to do #2 is, as exciting as the strange is make sure to pay as much, if not more attention to your girl as you do to the new chick. This happened to me when I was with another couple and the girl just wanted to **** me all night, her boyfriend ended up leaving her. Which actually was fine by me cause she was wild in the sack and I was happy to get together with her alone. Being on the other end was kiind of hard tho'. Sometimes I handled it less than gentlemanly. One thing I will say is I don't regret any of it and would do it again in a second. Now if I can just get to #4, that is the true holy grail. (rockon)

 

[Mazdaspeedgirl]

Sex is sex. However we all are human with feelings and almost all cannot disconnect ourselves emotionally from the experience. Feelings of jealousy become a problem, even if endured by one or more parties silently.

Even if you are sure of what you have in mind for the experience, the fact is that you can never be sure of how your girlfriend and the other person will feel.

I have seen many swinging couples who had threesomes and did the whole partner switching thing, and it caused relationship problems for all of them, regardless of how ready they all thought they were for it.

The things you must consider are:
"Is it really worth it?"
"How will it affect our lives afterward?"
and most importantly "Why are we doing this? Are we so bored with each other?"

These are things only the individuals involved will be able to answer, but heed my advisory of things that happened with my friends.

 

[Low J.]

Well to give more clarification to my situation ... me and my girl have been together for 7yrs... and again like someone has stated b4 sex means different things to diff people, and we are both very sexual. Not saying that we are sick with eachother, actually we are very happy, we just wanted to try sumthin diff......something exciting...do i love her? More than anything. But we are very secure (after 7yrs i surely hope so,.. lol) and we wanted to experiment. I have to disagree with the statement that if a couple attempts to try a 3some then there relationship is doomed. B/c everybodys tolerance level is diff...
well keep the opinions coming!

if you want to kind of "spice things up" then here's my suggestion. Get the best hotel room in town for a weekend......go there early and put some champagne on ice, rose petals on the bed, candles all over, chocolate sauce and strawberries, a few "toys", lubes/oils/tasty things, and surprise her.

 

[Ceej]

Well me and my girl have been together for a long time and we are very comfortable sexually, and we are considering having a 3some..but we have yet to accomplish this feat. Well my question is to all that have had one, has it affected ur relationship, and honestly do u see it as worthwhile afterword.
Thanks and pls post mature responses...

I had two in high school (yes I was a very lucky young man) no threesomes in college, one after college.

It ruined the relationship I had after college so I would not do it again (not that my wife would agree to it).

 

[Ceej]

Oh wait, I kind of had one in college but there was no full on intercourse, just oral stuff.