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* If I'm sitting at a red light, for what I expect to be more than 30 seconds (or so), I shut the engine off.
* coast in neutral, when approaching a traffic signal, or getting off highway (on exit ramps )
Depending on how long you are idling, it may not save much, and if you are in stop and go traffic (lots of stops) may shorten your battery life with too many starts. Cars designed with auto systems to do this have specific design considerations to manage the load.
Coasting in neutral is a waste of time and effort. When coasting in gear, the engine shuts off all fuel to the engine. It is true that the vehicle slows down more, but it is using NO fuel. Coasting it is using the idle fuel rate, which is greater than zero. If this overslows, you may have to get gently back on the gas, but the mileage at that point is going to be 60+ to reduce the slowing rate. Coasting in neutral may also be illegal in some states.