Needing some oppinions.

[SpicyMSP]

Everyone here on the forums that knows me, knows that I love my car. It became a hobby at first .........and hopefully in the near future my obsession will become my career. My MSP is my prized posession, I always take pride in it when it looks nice, and when others can appreciate what it is also. The friends I have met through theese forums have been the best I have ever had, and are always willing to do anything for me when I need help.

I have recently considered selling my car for a few reasons. As much as I dont want to do this I sit back and think, how there are more important things in life then having a cool car, and showing property off. I am struggling to afford what I have now, and moving soon, with a new job on the horizion. Thoughts of Debt and stress fill my head every minute I am awake. And then I look at my beautiful car in the driveway and wonder if It is truely worth it.

Are hobbies really worth all this that I am going through? Why is it that others are so happy with the cars they have and dont give it a second thought? There must be something more to life then what I have. Also a few unfortunate things have come from theese forums into my life. Things that I have done wrong and regret, and make me wish I never found this site. Nothing to screw over any of you. But sacrifices, and wrong doings in my own life that have also affected many I have been close with.

And it's all my fault. And I wonder.. why cant I just stop. Why cant I just stop posting, and live a life that does not revolve around my car and theese forums? And It makes me really sad to think that its all because of something materialistic.

I would love to sell my car, and be able to afford more important things like a place, and not have to worry about finances. I guarentee if I sold my car, my money problems would be over. Most importantly, I would love to concentrate on the more important things in life.. and the things I have neglected. Realizing all this, and knowing what I have done because of who I have met, ruining my life and others, I STILL cant bring myself to sell this stupid piece of metal. I just cant let go.
I know some would consider this crazy to post on a public forum, but as I said above, you are all my friends, and unfortunately this is my life.

-steph

 

[jflo]

well, as long as u still come to rife meets, than let her go...i think that u should focus on getting ur priorities/needs settled 'cause u knoe cars can come and go and there will always be better ones down the road (no pun intended, if that was one). cars r always a losing investment (unless they're vintage ferraris/porsches) so just think about what u could possibly do if u got ur future settled; u could get a new car that's just as beautiful as ur spicy msp and love it just as much..just make sure that spcymsp gets a nice new owner. and don't feel bad about the hobby thing, everyone needs something to keep them going, right ? could u imagine where u would be w/o this as a hobby ? maybe u'll find a way to make everything work after getting settled down in the OC (btw, welcome ! and no, the OC is not like The OC portrayed on FOX...only if u live 15-30 minutes from the beach do u see that).

basically, just do what needs to be really done, and worry about extra things later. i for one, still need to realize that myself (going to college soon and need to buckle down)

 

[SpicyMSP]

Also this is not all about the money. Its about my mental capasity, and how every second of my day someone needs something done for the site . At work, at home, everywhere. That is just so much pressure, and I get it from all aspects of my life. I just want to be able to relax and know that everything is taken care of and that no one NEEDS me for anything important.

For those of you on here that are close to me, you know that I tend to rush into things, before I think them through. Always going with my initial impulse, which is rarely the right thing to do. That happens to be the case again, and I regret so much. That is no way to live life. With Regret on your shoulders. There are soo many things I wish I havent done. So many things I wish I thought through completley, before ruining my life. I wish I could appreciate what I had, and not what I could have had instead.

I dont know if this will help, or justify anything, and I know that the person I want to read this the most wont see it. But It feels so good to say I am sorry.

 

[uclap5]

You can't let regrets get to you. Let go of the past. The only power you have is the power to make choices for the future.

Maybe you should take a vacation from all of this. There are LOTS of things more important than the car, MOCC, or the forums. Maybe its time to go back to those things, and then when you feel fulfilled in other areas than you can come back strike a balance between the priorities in your life.

And if money is an issue sell the MSP and buy charles' green 1st gen!

 

[SpicyMSP]

i would not be happy with a first gen.. sorry charles.. sorry everyone else with a first gen. Dont mean to offend. And its very hard not to let regrets get to you when they affect you everyday. Dang I just need a hug.

 

[uclap5]

sorry for the cornballiness of the first line, but thats truly what i feel. I stopped regretting what ive done a long time ago and never been happier that i was able to change my outlook on life in that way.

 

[uclap5]

*hug*



you'll make it through. your strong. dont give up to dispair. FIGHT IT DAMMIT.

 

[YellowSpeed1229]

u have mine ... do what u feel in ur heart

 

[Dexter]

*hug*
damn you uclap5.

 

[dominoy2k1]

i know what ya mean, i have had same thoughts as you. life is to short to have regrets, although i am only 21 i have through alot of stuff. yeah there have been things i regret doing but i dont think about them to much. regrets make me grumpy. i would say get over it but that doesnt solve anything. only thing i can think of that might help is, we learn from our mistakes. so regrets or not, think about it and try not to do the samething again. ah i have never really met you but you seem cool. if you want that someone to know how you feel tell em theyll understand. hopefully i have made some sense.

 

[zmepro]

don't sell your baby, but you don't need to pour money into it, let it sit for a while, use the money for something else ("more importent things") but don't sell your car, you may regret it ( I know I would cuz i have considered trading in mine, but the more i drive it i realize that i love it)

 

[SpicyMSP]

its not that I am putting money into it at all. I am not. My expenses on the car is the payment, insurance, and gas. I have so much great stuff on my car, but thats all because of the wonderful people I have met.

 

[tonkabui]

alexander graham bell, the inventor of the telephone, among other things, once said:

"When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us."

just something to think about.

 

[sukegirl_Mp3]

email that person the post...he's sure to open it...s*** i'll do it under my name..for him not so suspect it....

 

[YellowSpeed1229]

if u love someone let them go.. if it comes back then it is ment to be.

 

[charles]

Thoughts of Debt and stress fill my head every minute I am awake.

That is just so much pressure, and I get it from all aspects of my life. I just want to be able to relax and know that everything is taken care of and that no one NEEDS me for anything important.

For those of you on here that are close to me, you know that I tend to rush into things, before I think them through. Always going with my initial impulse, which is rarely the right thing to do.

I do not think if you sell your car your troubles would go away. No offense. This goes beyond Mazdas and Subarus and Saturns.

I didn't really want to get involved in anything. After all, this is Mazda Club, not Drama Club. But obviously it bugs me. Maybe I should have tried to be helpful instead of being an ass.

But I've been trying for half an hour and I still can't think of what I want to type here without sounding like an ass, or a hypocrite, because I would be one.

Group therapy, anybody?

 

[cablemirc]

not to be offensive, i really hope you feel better..
but when opportunity strikes..

want to sell it and have me take over payments?

 

[mountjonas]

do whatever it is that makes you happy. you can't regret that.

whatever it is, you know you've got a whole bunch of people here to support you.

 

[tttP5]

if u love someone let them go.. if it comes back then it is ment to be.

spicy i dunno you too well but sometimes s*** happens and you should not regret what you did before since it has shaped you to what you are now, always for the better than worse.

the quote above is exactly how i took it when it happened.

having a cool car doesn't mean anything at all to anyone, its who you are that impresses people. if its the financial situation the car has brought onto you then maybe you should let go, at least you will be free of this forum and spend time on other things. if its not really that maybe just don't devote so much of your time onto this forum for now, if things don't work out then drop the car too.

you will always be cool with us no matter what you drove.

 

[bazooka joe]

steph, you still need a car right? the msp is not that expensive a car to own or maintain. i think if you got rid of the car you might still feel this way. it sounds like the car is catching the blame for something else??