Get Married - Or Not
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take it from me i have been married and i have had a fiancee...... dont do it unless you are totally sure since i have been screwed over twice!!!!!! alot of money was lost and my heart was broken twice......... plus your name is not sean is it??????
rob
rob
BEst thing I ever did. But just be sure it's the right person. I spent nine years with the wrong person, so when the right one came along, I knew it. We've been married for almost two years now, I just wish I'd met her sooner. My life has totally changed for the better since I met her.
Plus, she knows how to weld...
Britt
Plus, she knows how to weld...
Britt
Dude, you can't do it unless you truly want to. Whether the pressure is from her, you, or other, it's just not right. Marriage is something that should not be rushed into. Trust me. Seen too many fail that way. If you're really not sure about it, talk to her. If you can't, well, find someone who will listen as a friend, but she's got to know also. You have to respect that. What is it that makes you feel this way?
lol start a poll!
Can't really give too much relationship advice. Haven't had that many that have really ment something. I will say this though, listen to the other guys.... don't rush into it. Better to do the engagement thing for 5yrs than marry and break up after 1. One thing that I always heard a lot but never really was ready for.... "relationships take work". Sooooo true my friend.
Can't really give too much relationship advice. Haven't had that many that have really ment something. I will say this though, listen to the other guys.... don't rush into it. Better to do the engagement thing for 5yrs than marry and break up after 1. One thing that I always heard a lot but never really was ready for.... "relationships take work". Sooooo true my friend.
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we have been dating since - well over a year - at first we were casually dating then we got more serious. After a while I knew she wanted to get married - she even told me so in December. I told her that I wasnt ready to get married but that I still liked her.
So for a while things were ok - then she starts getting on this get married this summer thing I and feel the pressure to get married this summer. I talked to her about it and she said that she would be ok with waiting.
Then like before it was cool for a while but now shes back on this get married this summer thing-
Im confused but at the same time strangley not so - I think that I will talk to her tomorrow about feeling pressured into marriage and that I need some time to think it over- I know it sounds really jerky to do it that way - but she knows im not a player trying to get out and hook up with someother bimbo - I just need time to sort it all out -
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So for a while things were ok - then she starts getting on this get married this summer thing I and feel the pressure to get married this summer. I talked to her about it and she said that she would be ok with waiting.
Then like before it was cool for a while but now shes back on this get married this summer thing-
Im confused but at the same time strangley not so - I think that I will talk to her tomorrow about feeling pressured into marriage and that I need some time to think it over- I know it sounds really jerky to do it that way - but she knows im not a player trying to get out and hook up with someother bimbo - I just need time to sort it all out -
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tell her ass to wait
its obvious you are not sure
tell her that when you feel that you are 100% sure that you will let her know, like with a nice ring and all.
asking guys on a car forum if you should get married or not just showes that you really dont want to get married, and or your just not ready, when the time comes you should know for yourself without having to ask anybody else
its obvious you are not sure
tell her that when you feel that you are 100% sure that you will let her know, like with a nice ring and all.
asking guys on a car forum if you should get married or not just showes that you really dont want to get married, and or your just not ready, when the time comes you should know for yourself without having to ask anybody else
just wait until you are sure...... i screwed up once and thought i was ready with a girl named amber in sandy,ut....... that is why i asked...... we were together for 2 yrs and i went on det to ca and got left behind!!!!! just be sure it is right!!!!!
rob
rob
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I didn't think I was ready either, so I made my girlfriend wait 5 years, then broke up with her so I could date around and be sure she was the right one (we started dating when I was only 18). When I finally convinced her to take me back I made her wait another 1.5 years as my girlfriend and 1 more after the engagement.
I was a real dumbass.
Now, I don't know why the hell I waited so long. Getting married didn't really limit what I could and couldn't do, it just gave me someone to share the best and worst parts of my life with.
I say if you love this girl then give her a ring. If not then end the relationship now and stop prolonging both your agony.
I was a real dumbass.
Now, I don't know why the hell I waited so long. Getting married didn't really limit what I could and couldn't do, it just gave me someone to share the best and worst parts of my life with.
I say if you love this girl then give her a ring. If not then end the relationship now and stop prolonging both your agony.
she's a maniac.. maniac.. for sure!!122 Vega said:
flashdance anyone?
but seriously guys.. i was married once.. for about 2 weeks. i got out of it just as quick as i got in. don't get me wrong, i was with her for 5 years leading up to that point. then we got married and it just didn't work out. i could tell i didn't want the marriage to happen leading up to it, but i just played it off since everyone told me it was normal to have those thoughts.
now i'm engaged again and this time i'm so excited about it. i can just tell it's the right thing to do. you need to have that feeling.
Can you see her in your life, 5, 10, 15 years down the road and like the image? If not, bail. You need to feel that way. And she should not be pressuring you.(notcool)
Yes, relationships are not peaches and cream 24/7, but you really do want to feel that when an issue comes up, it's worth working out. Otherwise, you'll just be unhappy.
Yes, relationships are not peaches and cream 24/7, but you really do want to feel that when an issue comes up, it's worth working out. Otherwise, you'll just be unhappy.
