My Buddy lost a child

TheJohnny

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Many of you don't know me, some of you know me from my posts. I want you all to know how much losing a child means. It's horrible, and when it happens to you it's like the end of the world. My wife and I lost a child to a tubal pregnancy which really hurt us both. Then this winter, in December, my friend Scott and his wife Margaret lost their little angel Alexandra.

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Here is what he had to say about it:
http://www.walkamerica.org/DaddysLilAngelAlexandra
Please give us your support in memory of our daughter Alexandra Margaret Holper who was born premature on December 4, 2005. Alexandra was a beautiful little girl who fought to survive until the very end when she became an Angel in Heaven. We ask that you support this cause so that other parents may avoid the terrible grief of losing a baby. Thank you and Bless you, Scott

And what mom had to say:
http://www.walkamerica.org/AngelAlexandra
My daughter Alexandra Margaret Holper was born prematurely on December 4, 2005 at 2:30 A.M. She weighed 2 pounds and was 12.5 inches long. She had the most beautiful black hair and the most delicate hands. Alexandra was the perfect picture of a little lady even as she was taking her last breaths. Unfortunately her time on this earth was brief but oh so precious. She was an amazing girl, we called her "our little rock star" with a strong heart and a determination to survive, but she was called home to heaven as she lay craddled in her parents arms. Alexandra's death could have been easily prevented and I pray that you join me and my husband in supporting this cause so that other parents may be spared the insurmountable grief of losing a baby.


I'm sorry if posts like this aren't allowed, but I wanted to let you all know that this happens quite often, and it has personally effected me and my family. Please visit the links and if you want to help out, then visit my link or Scotts and donate whatever you want. Below is my link. Again, if posting this isn't allowed I'm sorry, I'll remove all the links, but I wanted everyone to know of little Alexandra. Thank you all who read this.
http://www.walkamerica.org/jjrsae

I'll keep this thread open but I'll remove all links if necessary.
 
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I'm very lucky I wasn't more premature than I already was. I was 6 weeks premature but almost 9 pounds so it was ok. My sister was born premature as well at about 6 pounds.

I can't imagine how awful it must be to lose a child, especially one who is so young.

Best wishes to you.
 
...... must be so painfull
im the father of a 1 years old boy and i cant imagine losing him....became my worst fear since he was born! Every parents know what i means....

Ill pray for you and your wife and for Scott's family tonight. RIP Alexandra
 
Hellnightkid said:
sorry to hear that johnny. i dont know what to say.

My wife and I have recovered and have since had a little baby girl, born in November, and she was premature as well. She is doing wonderful now though, but we will never forget her little sister/brother that never made it. We have two boys and a baby girl now, our family circle of trust in complete.

I pray that my buddy Scott and his wife try again.
 
I am very sorry, my prayes go to her and her family. I can't imagine what loosing a child must be like. RIP
 
They'll be in my prayers.......i cant imagine what i'd feel like if i lost my child. God Bless.
 
I hope faith helps you and your friends families through times like these.. my condolences.

before my son was born, I'd have given anything just to have someone insure that he would come out fine... he came out 5 weeks early and weighed only 6 lbs. now he's almost two, he did have problems initially.. but now he's good (he has a non-life threatening heart murmer) he's the reason I drive careful, he's the reason I live from day to day. you could say he runs my life...

(attached a pic of my lil "hemmy" aka: the cutest baby on earth)
 

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I'm terribly sorry to hear about your friends loss. My wife and I gave birth to our son Philip back in July. He was 1lb 10oz. He wasn't due until mid october. Premies are very suseptible to illnesses. He's had croup and broncitis within this last month. But he seems to be a trouper though. Our experience with him has truely changed our outlook on life. And after hearing our your friends loss it makes me value his life that much more. I couldn't imagine losing him.
 
Wow, was that a typo? I didn't realize there was a chance of survival at under 2 pounds, that is amazing. Good luck to you and your son.
 
KanseiZM said:
Wow, was that a typo? I didn't realize there was a chance of survival at under 2 pounds, that is amazing. Good luck to you and your son.[/quote

He was under 2lbs. Sadly the chances of a baby that premature surviving may only be as good as the care he/she receives. Our hospital that was picked originally to deliver Philip also happend to be one of the top two Natal Intinsive Care Units (next to Stanford) in California. There was a little girl who was born a couple weeks after him that was even smaller. The couple was reffered to Good Samaritan Hosptial after they were told that she wouldn't make it. So they basically gave up on her. When we finally were released from the hospital she was improving along with our son.
 
Thank you all for your donations.... The walk is coming up soon, I'll take pics and post them on here for you all.
 
bump, I have a new goal to raise $150. I'm at $130, bump for anyone willing to donate to Walk America and the March of Dimes.

Thank you so so so so much to anyone who has already donated, God bless you all.

www.walkamerica.com/jjrsae
 
i cant imagine what loosing a kid feels!!! The only thin g i want to say is that that my prayers will be to you and youre friends families and God will be with you and your wife!!!
 
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