I think shifting is like sex...some people are good at it but others need uhm...practice. Use the lube the previous poster mentioned.
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Change the fluid to the GM Synchromesh Friction Modified Manual Transmission Fluid. It solves the 3rd gear grinding problem right away. I had the same problem with my TL a couple of years back.
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I don't understand all these issues with the tranny... I've never had issues with mine. Though I have to admit when I had the stock tranny mount, under WOT I had issues shifting into 3rd occasionally. After I put in the TRZ mount, my shifting is solid... I never have any issues shifting, grinding, or missing shifts...
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Whats going on with your cars? Are these 2007 models with issues that may have gotten corrected with the 2008s...?
I've noticed that this car is very sensitive to the clutch being depressed 100%, before you try to put into gear. Sounds stupid, but in all other manual car's I've driven in the last 18 years, the clutch action and shift action could be made a little more in sync. For example, when shifting quickly, you could start moving the shifter as the clutch was depressed about 1/2 to 3/4 of the way to the floor. By the time that the shifter completed its travel, the clutch would have just contacted the floor.
For the syncros not to balk in the 2-3 shift, you really need to depress the clutch all the way before moving the lever. I hate it. The shifter/tranny are my least favorite parts of this car.
chacon, are you using a synchromesh fluid in yours?
where can you purchase the solid rear mount?