Congratulations on having a daughter, sir.
As the wheels...personally i think they could look pretty good...but, and i'm probably in a minority with this...personally i can not stand staggered wheels on a fwd car...unless they are staggered the 'right' way, which usually isn't even needed...
what i'm saying is i'd put the 9" wheels up front...There is more room up there to begin with, and its more appropriate for a turbo'd fwd anyway...It'll probably also look better with an appropriate suspension to manage the gap...those look like pretty fat tires on there. For a 9" wheel, a 215 stretches very nicely over them...without getting ridiculous (i can't tell from your pic what size is the on rear)...I would recommend a 205 width for the 8" wheels, too...the VW fad of making a fwd look like a rwd has always bothered me, but whatever.
dig around some forums for some very tasteful jdm staggered fwd's...when done right it doesn't look off at all, and is actually better for performance too...i can't say i'm in love with the color of those on a silver car, but you seem open to changing that...but i think the biggest thing that stands out is the wheel gap and the front tires being a little wide for those wheels...the ksports will let you adjust that properly...
one last thing...please at least try the 9" wheels up front to see how they look...I've had 10mm front spacers on for years with +48 offset wheels, and it dramatically changed that annoying 'sunk in' look that the front track had...with 9" wheels, you'll eat that up completely...personally i think you'd prefer a lot more...